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Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Working with a Spirited Child and trying to be a better mom

I don't know which is worse: the fact that my child throws himself on the ground and spits at me because I refused to carry him in the sprinkling rain or the fact that I completely lost my patience with him when he did it?

Clearly, it's my response. I am the adult here. Yes, my child seems to have issues adjusting to change at times. He doesn't like getting wet in the rain or getting his feet dirty in the mud or fire alarms. These are just a few of the things that seem to really bother him. He's only four. So, my fear is there is more to come. But, I digress. At the end of the day, I am the one that needs to change. I am the one that needs to have better responses, better interactions and better direction for him. He is just a little boy. But, as a parent I can learn better ways to deal with him and help him to be a better boy.

There is no manual that comes with parenting. We just have to figure it out. Thank God we have some tools and resources to make our jobs a little easier along the way. Have you read "The New Strong-Willed Child" by James Dobson? I haven't. And, I'm not sure I will. I've heard some positive and some very negative things about his philosophy on raising children.

I also saw a book in the church library today with the title "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Kurcinka. Do you have any experiences with this book? I read a little in the library and liked what I saw. First, the term "spirited" which seems to conjure up better thoughts about your child than the term "strong-willed" or even "difficult." And the brief descriptions I read about the "spirited child" seemed to perfectly describe mine. Here is what Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's website says we can expect from her book.

Raising Your Spirited Child can help you:
  • plan for success with a simple, four-step program;
  • discover the power of positive, rather than negative, labels;
  • understand your child's and your own temperamental traits;
  • cope with tantrums and blowups when they do occur;
  • develop strategies for handling mealtimes, bedtimes, holidays, school, and many other situations.
    Do you have any suggestions for something else we should be focusing on or reading. I believe what God's word says in psalm 139:14. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 
    I know my child is fearfully and wonderfully made. I praise God for his wonderful work in our son.

Monday, October 12, 2009

What a crick in the neck!

Well, good morning, crick in the neck. You surprised me with your 5am wakeup call. And your pain that has gotten increasingly worse since then. Why have you come back? I did not invite you and have no time for you today.

Why do I have a crick in the neck this morning? I have no idea. I slept fine. Although, I would suppose that is in question now. Can you get a crick in the neck from sleeping too still? It's possible that I did not move from 10pm until 5am. Would that do it?

As a mom of 3 pre-schoolers, going through the day without reaching down to pick someone, something, or a million things off the floor, is an impossible goal. Unfortunately, there is no comfortable position for this crick in the neck. It's all pain.

Oh well. And so it goes. And I'm off. To start the day with the three els, a crick in the neck, and a smile in my heart. xoxo

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Before the Throne

When I Think About the Lord
Your Grace is Enough

How Great is Our God
Before the Throne of God Above
Take My Life

Here are the songs we did this morning during praise and worship at St. Andrew's. I had to take care of Trinity during the sermon and missed the entire thing. I did receive the Word from the songs this morning though. Especially- Before the Throne- "Hallelujah. Hallelujah. praise the One, risen Son of God." It is such a beautiful and thought-provoking song. To really come before the throne of God with all that we are. That is something that I am striving to do. Come as I am, as imperfect as that is. He still loves me and I am fearfully and wonderfully made in Him. praise God for that! Amen? :-)

Hope you are having a great Sunday and know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made too!

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Trips to the ER with boys

Our little primate with his buddy the orangutan!

What a day. What a week. What a life!

Is this what I am to "expect" with boys?

That is what I keep hearing. Everytime I tell someone about our 2 year old's experiences with falling and needing stitches over the last 3 weeks- someone tells me their horror story. I've heard numerous stories of 12 ER visits or 15 ER visits or stitches every year. All of these stories were boys, by the way. But, none of them were comforting or encouraging in the least.

I guess I should be comforted to know that it all works out ok in the end. But, that's hard. When you are going through it, it is traumatic. Our sweet little boy was screaming, crying and foaming at the mouth when the doctor failed at her attempt to glue him back together with dermabond. It was one of the most awful experiences we've had as parents.

Did I just say "failed at her attempt to glue him back together with dermabond?" Yes, I did. After having the glue on the skin for a few days, it begins to flake off and then you can actually see the success or unsuccess of the glue. In this case, it was unsuccessful. His laceration is just as open as it was when we arrived to the ER Saturday night. And what do we have to show for it? Well, we've tortured him by strapping his arms down, caused him extreme pain while attempting to apply dermabond while he was crying and sweating profusely with no numbing medication and we still have to get stitches tomorrow.

Oh, I am not looking forward to this. please pray for our Maddux. May he be brave and strong and trust in the Lord.